xsBusiness - The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize it and How to Respond

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Binding: Paperback
Dewey Decimal Number: 153.6
EAN: 9781558505827
ISBN: 1558505822
Label: Adams Media
Manufacturer: Adams Media
Number Of Items: 1
Number Of Pages: 222
Publication Date: 2003-02-01
Publisher: Adams Media
Studio: Adams Media

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Summary: I was abused just by viewing the contents of this book
Comment: This is a very bad book to be on the selves. This is probably the most noneducational book on abuse there is. I'd suggest going to a local abuse shelter if you actually want to learn something about abuse. That would probably be much more educational than buying something cheap on amazon from someone who's obviously uneducated on this issue.

If you view the contents of the book and look at pg.24, then you can read for yourself how it implicitly assumes women are always right no matter what. On one hand, the man is wrong because he doesn't understand what the woman is talking about ("He has no idea what you're talking about when you try to discuss the issue with him".), and on the other, the man is wrong because she doesn't know what he is talking about("He is angry with you... you are surprised each time.")

Furthermore, what the author is mostly talking about is stonewalling. Stonewalling is not verbal abuse: stonewalling is one form of emotional abuse but its not verbal. Also note that wanting to invade another person's privacy (physical, emotional or mental) can also qualify as abuse.

The list on the page potential buyers are allowed access to is highly vague and abstract. In fact, its actually sown out of the same tactics used by verbal abusers themselves.

For example, as you read the list you start saying to yourself, "does my life really have to revolve around this person? I'd like to please them, but their personal demands are very extreme."

Finally, the simple fact about abuse is that most abusers make excessive demands on their significant other. Think about that while reading this book.

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Summary: This so hits the nail on the head!
Comment: When I first read this book there were bells going off everywhere for me! I saw myself and recognized so many things that just made things click into place for me. I totally related to the people in the stories to the extent that, word for word, I realized that I had made the same excuses to others but worst of all to myself! This is one powerful book. It takes you there but then gives you the tools to find your way out.

This is the fourth time I've bought this book. I keep giving it to people who I feel could benefit from it and my copy is so dogeared and filled with highlighter that it's distracting (for anyone but me anyway).

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Summary: This book has saved my soul... seriously.
Comment: Before I read this book, I didn't know there was a name for what I was going through. Once I started reading I was in shock. I was reading about myself. It was unreal. I was ready to go before this book but this book enlighetened me to a point that I finally understood what was happening in my life and I then felt a little more empowered and educated. I now no longer question the decisions that I have to make because I understand why I am making them and why things are the way they are. I've never written a review before but I felt compelled to do so after reading this. Thanks to all who have reviewed before me, its because of you that I bought this book and I hope all others who read it get as much out of it as I did. I can't wait to live again without doubting what I was going through.

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Summary: helps clear the fuzziness in your head about your relationship
Comment: The definitions of the different realities (rational vs. irrational) are very helpful in trying to comprehend why conversations end up so confusing, or your mind starts to feel cloudy. If your partner has ever made you feel a little fuzzy in the head, confused, or downright said something mean or something that embarrasses you............ read this book!

It is one of my "anchor" books that I flip to my highlighted sections when I start to fill with self-doubt and uncertainty.

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Summary: Finally...I Understood What was Happening to Me and I got Out!
Comment: I didn't know what was wrong with my marriage, but I knew I was unhappy. At least once a week I found myself telling my husband, "Don't talk to me like that. It makes me feel bad." But he didn't stop. It just got worse.

These kind of relationships are poison because you are being emotionally abused.

Day by day you grow more and more less confident and uneasy...but you can't understand why.

Please, if you think you are being mistreated...you probably are.

Read this book so that you have a better understanding of what is going on in your relationship. Seek professional help, go to the nearest women's shelter if you need help or affordable counseling.

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If you or someone you know answers "yes" to one or more of the following questions, this book is required reading:

Does your partner seem irritated or angry at you several times a week?
Does he deny being angry when he clearly is?
Do your attempts to discuss feelings of pain or emotional distress leave you with the feeling that the issue has not been resolved?
Do you frequently feel perplexed and frustrated by his responses, as though you were each speaking a different language?

Almost everyone has heard of or knows someone who is part of a verbally abusive relationship-if they're not involved in one themselves. In The Verbally Abusive Relationship, you'll find validation and understanding-it's "not all in your head"-and encouragement for your efforts to change the situation. In this expanded second edition, author Patricia Evans explores the damaging effects of verbal abuse on children and the family, and offers valuable insight and recommendations to therapists, as well as those who seek therapeutic support.